Why Penelope is the swift kick in the ass you need

Penelope Trunk's Steps to figuring out your next career move should be giving your career the swift kick in the ass your twenty-something career needs. How do I know this is what you need? With the opening paragraph closing with the line "The ones who are complaining the most right now, after reading just this far, are the people who are most in denial of what adult life is about", you can't help but realize that what you'll read next is everything you didn't want to hear but you had to anyway.

Penelope also gives you the kick your life needs. Afterall, your job or your career is merely a symptom of what the rest of your life looks like. If your home life is in shambles, it is merely a matter of time until your work life is too. If work is falling apart, your marriage or family life will feel the strain. The exercise Penelope provides can really be applied to any aspect of your life. Its really all about making choices and cutting the excess.

I've taken the list Penelope provided and I tried to apply it to my personal life. Below you'll see her list in bold and my comments in italics.

1. Eliminate stuff. I hate to admit but Brian and I have a stuff problem. Both in the activities we take on and the things we possess. This is great advice where ever you are in life. When I was looking at my own list of my life, I noticed that I have this tendency to stay involved in organizations that I don't believe in just because I don't want to quit. By giving up volunteer work for organizations I no longer believe and cutting back on Township meetings I don't really need to be at, I made more time for the things I actually need or want to do. Next step: clearing out the spare bedroom that only makes Brian and I feel swamped and overwhelmed.

2. Look at what’s left. What's left is still a pretty expansive list. It is so easy to forget about the many rolls we have in our own lives. Wife. Daughter. Clerical Assistant. Member of the Well. Aunt. Granddaughter. Writer. Painter. Reader. Volunteer. Family Organizer. Cook. The list really could go on for days. This is then your cue to go back to item one and see what other stuff you can eliminate.

3. Check in with yourself. I try to convince myself that I love doing things to make my husband's life easier. But sometimes I don't and I don't want to admit. You have to check in with yourself to see what you still value. If you don't know what you value personally, how will you know what you value professionally? If you need help with this task, try taking the Franklin Covey FOCUS seminar. I assure you, it will be money well spent.

4. Be honest about what you love. Penelope suggests using sex as a litmus test. Which may or may not work depending on the type of person you are. For me, it works. For my friend Kim, that litmus test would not work at all. A better test for her would be daytime TIVOed TV. Whatever it is you love, its okay. Just make sure you know what it is.

5. Admit if you lack a clear passion. Not to bust on Kim but she has no clear passion. That's why she is a paralegal in a Philadelphia law office. She makes steady money, her needs are met and she has a reasonable work week leaving her time to watch tv in the evenings. That's the life she wanted. My friend Jeannie, on the other hand, has always been passionate about psychology. She isn't making great money but she loves what she does. She knows where her passion is. The important thing here is that both of my friends know what they are and are not passionate about and they plan their lives accordingly.

6. Get busy. Doing anything. And on that note....